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Spring is officially here!

How do I know? ‘Cause I’m looking out the window, watching the clothes on the line sway in the breeze. Hanging clothes on the line is one of those quaint traditions (I can’t bring myself to call it a chore) that I just love. I’m conscious that calling it quaint is probably insulting in some manner. Possibly it marks me out as privileged in more ways than I’ve considered. Surely there are many many people in the world for whom it is a necessity instead of a luxury. Certainly there are far more people in the former category than the latter. But in the modern West it seems to be a dying activity.

I remember when I was growing up in rural Tennessee everyone had a clothesline, and everyone used it. Maybe half the people in town had a dryer, but they were considered expensive to run. So unless it was raining the clothes went out. Let’s face it the sun is free anyway you look at it, and people knew to take advantage of it.

As I became an adult and moved into urban America I saw fewer and fewer families hanging their clothing in the air to dry. Granted some of this is due to constraints on space. I get that. An apartment building is not particularly conducive to hanging clothing outdoors. But there also seems to have been a shift in mentality. It has been my experience that hanging ones garments in the open air is thought to only be done if you don’t own a dryer, or take the last step at the laundry mat. It is in effect advertising the fact that you can’t afford these things. Let’s face it the sun is free anyway you look at it, and who wants to advertise being poor or make themselves look poor even if they aren’t?

This is a surprisingly strong disincentive to using the resources of nature.  I once had a neighbor complain that it made the neighborhood look trashy when I strung a line on my back balcony (overlooking my own backyard) to dry the babies cloth nappies. I was furious and politely explained to her that I hung them in the sun not only to save electricity, but also because solar rays are antibacterial and this is good for both diapers and the babies that wear them. I also curtly told her that I would do anything I liked on my own balcony, but I felt conspicuous from that day forward. It took a little of the joy out of the experience.

What I didn’t know at the time is that she may have had every right to complain my about my nappy line. The use of clothes lines is officially banned in many areas! Millions of Americans are not even allowed to string a washing line even if they want to. I am shocked by this! Shocked I say.

As aware as I was that my  propensity to air-dry clothing  was culturally at odds with my neighbors, it wasn’t until I moved to the UK that I really gave it much thought. Here, despite postage-stamp-sized gardens (yards, no one grows vegetables in an English garden) the vast majority of people find a corner to string up a line and hang out the smalls.

I take great joy in this. It means that, like today, I can hang it up, sit back and watch the breeze blow the moisture away. It doesn’t cost me a dime. My neighbors don’t look at me like a freak. I’m doing something good for the environment, or rather not doing something bad, and my life seems somehow more complete.

Does this seem like I am contributing too much importance to a mere clothes line? Maybe; but it’s all true. I would like to think that as people become more environmentally aware the humble clothes line may come back in style; that instead of seeing a line of T-shirts, towels, and jeans as an indication that the owner couldn’t afford the electricity to dry them, they might be seen as proof that the owner was green conscious. More states need to follow the example of Florida, Colorado, Utah, Hawaii, Maine and Vermont, who have passed laws (it’s ridiculous but yes laws were necessary) forbidding bans on clotheslines. I look forward to the day when I can sit at home in the States and watch the clothes sway in the breeze, just like I can when at home in the UK.

The Wonders of Vitamin D

Some of you may know that I am a lifelong nail-biter. It’s a disgusting and self-destructive habit that I’ve learned to moderate as an adult, but never been able to shake for long. I’ve tried, believe me. As a kid my parents tried everything from paying me if I could grow them, to smacking my in the back of the head if seen to be biting them (thanks dad), to bitter polish, and worry beads. But nothing ever worked; I continued to eat myself. I suppose if I had a Vorarephilia fetish I would be set for life. I don’t.

Now, let me add here, just so we all understand what I mean when I say I bit my nails. I don’t mean that I nibbled harmlessly at them. No, I mean I bit them so low that I couldn’t bend my fingers because it would pull the skin away from what little quick I had left, hurt and bleed. Getting my hands wet almost became a paranoia because they hurt so much worse when wet and soft. I used to carry cups between the two thenar of my hands so that I didn’t have to grip them with one hand. I’m not exaggerating. This was a horrid horrid thing to do to myself.

By my mid twenties I had garnered enough self control to keep myself from such extremes. I carry a nail file and clippers with me at all time. If I feel a snag I will file or clip it immediately, regardless of the location. I feel a bit self-conscious about this sometimes as I think it can seem rude, but I’m selfish enough to prioritise my needs over the possible disgust of any observer – sorry about that.

Recently, however I find that these nails that I have mutilated my whole life are growing. I didn’t at first know why. Lord knows my stress level hasn’t gone down. I suddenly realised that my last semester is halfway done, which means it is time to start writing final essays again, and even worse to stop pretending to research my dissertation and actually write it. The in-laws are here. I’m raising a five year-old. OMG, have you ever raised a five year-old? No matter how much you love them (and we do) they are little sh*ts that you want strangle sometimes (we don’t). The only thing to have changed that I can attribute the growth to is that I started taking vitamin D. I don’t mean the little bit included in my mulit-vitiamin, but a full 5,000 UI a day. I’m told you can’t overdose on the stuff, so I’m running with that.

I started taking them because I heard rickets were remerging. Modern people don’t get enough sun. We stay inside all day and slather ourselves in sunblock when we go out. I’m not great about the sunblock, but then again I live in NW England. I sure do spend half my lifetime in front of a computer though, and last I checked monitors didn’t emit solar energy. Panic ensued, research followed, new tablet was added to the morning regime eventually, and now I suddenly have long beautiful nails. It is my understanding that vitamin D helps regulate the absorption of calcium and phosphate into the body, so I guess it makes sense.

The amazing new nails

Now those of you who have never bitten your nails might look at the above picture and think, ‘So what? What’s the big deal?’ You might even think they aren’t all that beautiful really. They’re a little misshapen, you can practically see through them they’re so thin, so they aren’t the stark white of a french manicure. The thing is, though, I could go get a french manicure if I wanted to. This is mind-blowing to me.

This experience has also come with a few other unexpected side effects. I find that I use my hands differently with nails extending from the tips of my fingers. Typing is a bit more difficult. I keep sliding off the keys. I never even realised that I type with the tip of my fingers instead of the pad. Why would I need to know that? I also spread my fingers more, raise my hand in a more elegant manner, and just generally feel more feminine. It’s ridiculous! I know it’s ridiculous, but I do it anyway, and it makes me happy. I attribute all of this to the one little capsule of vitamin D I now take in the mornings.

Now, I’m not a medical practitioner, and since I don’t want to be sued if someone out there decides to start taking Vitamin D and something bad happens I, of course, recommend doing your research and/or consulting your doctor beforehand. But it seems to have worked wonders for me.

So I’m joining the blogging revolution.

As this is a placeholder for the moment I won’t say too much, but watch this space. There is fun to come. I am an avid reader, and intend there to be book review, discussions and even a bit of my own writing. Oh, I am also an author. My first novel The Weeping Empress came out in Dec. of 2011. You’ll hear more about it, and the wild journey that is marketing a recent publication. I have a husband, two daughters and an imaginary dog who will likely be mentioned on occasion. I am a graduate student at The University of Manchester, so no doubt I’ll loose my rag every now and then – especially near deadlines. There is just so much to post about.

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