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the internet made me do it

A thought on sexual assault in books…or the internet made me do it.

This is another one of those “I saw something on the internet that got me thinking” posts. Earlier today, I was scrolling through Instagram and came across a reaction reel of someone holding up a well known epic fantasy with a caption that read something along the lines of “reading a fantasy without any sexual assault in it.” It was followed by an author pissily reacting with “You know what, it’s almost like those books aren’t written for you.” And a lot of the comments were along the lines of “I hate when readers shame authors or other readers for including sexual assault.”

I’m not going to link the post, because I’m honestly not trying to start anything with anyone. They are 100% entitled to her opinion on the matter. I can even see where they’re coming from. There are a myriad of reasons to include a sexual assault and/or rape in a story—from authors and/or readers working out their own trauma, to it fit the plot, to the fantasy is sexy, and more. Nowhere in the following post am I suggesting sexual assault and/or rape should not ever be used in a book. That isn’t my argument here.

But the reel did make me wince and think, “Oh man, they’d hate me and my reviews.” Because I call out sexual assault and rape in books ALL THE TIME. And sometimes I even say things like “Come on author, could you really not think of anything more original to give this character a backstory?” And that can feel pretty shamey.

But I have a reason for this. It’s not usually about the inclusion of sexual assault in the singular, it’s about the sexual assault scene as a part of the collective. I read a lot of fantasy and a lot of romance, and sometimes it feels like, no matter how hard I try, I can’t even find a book that doesn’t have at least a rape threat in it. It’s just so very prevalent. And the knock-on effect is that, even when an individual book includes a sexual assault that serves a purpose and fits it’s plot in a way something else wouldn’t, it just feels like one more rape in a downpour of rapes, rather than one purposeful plot point.

So, at some point in the past, I started noting sexual assault and rapes in my reviews. Because it comes down to the numbers for me. Here’s one, and one more, and one more, and yet another, and another, and another, and another, and another, and another. At this point, I don’t even get triggered, or angry, or anything as strong as disgusted. I usually just sigh in disappointment, note it, and move on. But even that apathy is sad.

I don’t like what this says about our society, that sexual assault and rape feels the go-to for plot progression, drama, character development, etc. At this point, I think it too often feels lazy. Don’t want to take the time to develop a strong character, just have her boss rape her. Does she need a traumatic backstory to overcome, date rape to the rescue. Need to knock a competent female character down a peg or two, write a violent sexual assault into the story. Need to add a little danger that the hero can save the heroine from? There’s always a stranger ready jump out and try to rape her on her walk home from the bus stop. Want the reader to know your bad guy is really bad? Murder isn’t enough, but a rape fantasy will send the message every-time. Want the the reader to know the woman is in a bad neighborhood, have a few sexually explicit cat calls that read like rape threats get thrown her way. Want to let the reader know she was being impetus and acting in anger, let her storm off and then narrowly avoid a sexual assault (but make sure the reader has to read four paragraphs about what he plans to do to her before she escapes or is rescued).

And so, so, so, so often there are better option available to the author. My fear is that we’ve all read these stories so many times that we’ve set the precedent and expectation within our selves. We subliminally expect it and therefore, when we create our own stories, we  replicate what feels familiar without even realizing it. Again, I’m not saying no author should ever include a rape or sexual assault in their story. But I often call out rapes and sexual assaults in books because I feel like the author didn’t critically consider their own use of it. They just wrote what felt like should come next, because so often it does in stories. I WANT TO BREAK THAT SUBCONSCIOUS PATTERNING and I feel like the first step is to acknowledge it. So, I point it out in the hopes that others will notice it too.

Authors, all I’m asking is, include rape and sexual assault, sure, but do so consciously and conscientiously. Because as a reader, I honestly feel like I’m experiencing secondary trauma by virtue of being hit with a barrage of sexual assault and rape scenes, threats, and references every single day. I not infrequently realize that I’m tensing up in anticipation of the assault before it ever appears on page.

We hear about it in the media (who’s had allegations leveled against them, who’s be sentenced or acquitted, what new scandal is breaking, what war crime against women is being discussed, who’s speaking out at last, which billboard looks like an assault in lingerie, etc) and then we sit down to read (or watch a show/movie) in our down-time and get hit with more and more and more. It’s everywhere, always. I’m love it if there was a little less of it in the books I read for fun.

So, a single scene is just that. But I’m asking authors to also consider how that scene fits into the larger body of the genre you write in. Some books are always going to include references to sexual assault and/or rape, if not the act itself. If you’re writing erotica that explores the dynamics of power, control, and consent or if the story is about overcoming a rape, for example, then I have no complaints. But if it’s not a necessary component of the story, why not at least consider using something else?

If I’m honest, even if you consider and still decide to go with the rape or sexual assault, it’s a first step. It’s how often the scene doesn’t feel considered that really bothers me. I cannot tell you how many fantasy villains I’ve read, spouting off rape threats and I’ve just stopped and thought, “Well, that came out of nowhere and relates to nothing.” This is the sort of thing I’m thinking we could do without.

That’s it. That’s my reaction to a random Instagram reel I encountered on the internet. It’s not based on science or research. It’s completely anecdotal. But also 100% heart-felt.

 

Describe your characters to me. Don’t compare them to actors.

It’s random blog post time. In other words, time for me to randomly give my opinion to the ether space that is the internet. So, how did we get here?

Earlier today, I came across this tweet:

Which is apparently about this tweet* that the twitterverse dog-piled on the poster about:

stop using pop culture referencesI actually missed the drama and went back to search it up after I saw Sadie’s tweet and got curious. I’m not going to get into the Twitter battle or if pop culture references are good or not (that’s too subjective to answer), but it did get me thinking about related things. Not so much pop culture reference, but the use of comparisons to actors as a substitute for character description**.

Yeah, I know it’s not the same. But it’s in the same ball park and I feel about this method of describing a character kind of how I imagine M. does about pop culture references. (Notice the imagine in there. I obviously don’t know for sure.) But I figured I’d give you a run down of the thought process that brought me to this post. And it followed the track of Sadie, to M., to ‘Yeah, OK, I get that,” to “That’s kinda how I feel about using actor references instead of character descriptions.”

As others have pointed out, if M. is 14 she may simply be too young to feel engaged in many of the pop culture references she’s encountering (and some of us may be too old for new ones). Which is a legitimate reason to dislike seeing pop culture references in her books and to have an opinion on the matter. Others have different opinions and that’s fine too.

While there are several reasons I dislike it when authors say, “He looked like a bad boy version of Ryan Reynolds,” or a “lawyer-slick version of Zac Effron” instead of writing an actual visual description, one is simply that I can’t easily engage with it. For many years (while I was working on my last Masters, for example) I didn’t own a TV and I rarely went to the movies. Even after I finished the university program, I threw myself back into books for fun and still almost never watched television or went to the cinema. When I came to a description of “he looked like a grown up Jharrel Jerome,” I often had to literally stop and google the actor to see what was meant (or ignore it and move on).

This was not only an ineffective means of relaying information to me, it was an actively annoying one. I simply didn’t know who the bright young things of Hollywood were, let alone one Chris from another. Like M. (maybe) not getting 1980s or 90s pop culture references, I had no reference for popular actors and actively disliked being reminded of it.

This is largely true today too. I do own a TV now, but I will take a book over that TV or the movies 9 nights out of 10.  But that 1 out of 10 gives me a little more reference than I had for a long time. At least I know some of the names and faces these days. (I only had to google about half the names for this post, for example.)

And this is the general point I’m making. Pop culture references and actor comparisons in place of character descriptions both assume knowledge on the part of the reader that they may not have. And that’s fine, of course. It’s up to the author to decide who they want their intended audience to be and those of us on the outside just kind of have to suck it up. We can have opinions on the matter, but that’s all they are.

But if an author chooses to exclude those without that referenced knowledge (due to age, growing up in a different culture, or not being part of a certain group/subgroup, etcetera) they have to accept that those left out might mention, “Hey, this sucks for us.” I don’t think either group—reader or writer—should get salty about it. But I don’t see any issue with acknowledging it.

Here’s where it gets a little iffy for me. I would like to think that when authors chose to use a pop culture reference or compare their sexy male lead to Jason Momoa or Idris Elba (thereby including some and excluding some other readers) they are doing so consciously and conscientiously. But let’s be honest, there are plenty of times authors don’t consider who they are excluding. Because they are human and humans have a disconcerting tendency to think everyone is just like them—that we all know/like the same jokes and pop culture, are attracted to the same actors, etcetera.

So, please, do what your gonna do. But at least do it with the knowledge and acknowledgement that you are doing it!

And that’s where my ‘M. disliked pop culture reference and I similarly dislike actor names in place of character descriptions’ comparison ends. But I also want to take a moment to further make my case that using such actor comparisons in place of physical descriptions is a poor choice on the part of the author, IMO.

One of the reasons I would rather read a book before seeing a movie is that I want the chance to bring a world and its inhabitants to life in my head, without the influence of the casting director. I want to imagine what a character looks like. But if you hand me a picture, it’s almost certain that’s going to be the image in my head. I don’t want YOUR image. I want MY image. And you steal my opportunity to develop that when you just say, “He looks like John Cho.”

What’s more, in my opinion, it’s just plain feels lazy. Did you not develop a new image for this character yourself? Did you have a “Main Character Pinterest Board” curated from the internet and just describe what you were looking at, not what you imagined? That’s the bitchy side of me coming out, I admit. But I genuinely feel like slapping on a “He looked like Taye Diggs” is just lazy writing. You say in one sentence what might otherwise take a paragraph. I want the paragraph! I want all the lush language that will make me drool, not that clinical comparison that is just dull, unimaginative, and boring! You want me to know he looks like Taye Diggs, then describe Taye Diggs so well I can’t help but cultivate that image in my head. Make us share this vision with your skill.

Further, in the case of romantic or erotic fiction, describing your sexy hero by saying, “He looked like Tom Holland,” assumes we all find Tom Holland equally attractive. It assumes I find Tom Holland attractive enough to imagine him as the sexy hero. It ignores that I might not find Tom Holland attractive or want to image him as a sexy lead. I’m 44yo, for example, he looks too young to fill that role for me, personally. So, coming across such a comparison either ruins the sexy hero for me or requires I ignore your image entirely, which tend to pull me out of the narrative. Either way it’s doing your book no favors.

There’s also simply the matter of how badly such comparisons can date a book. If you compare your main character to Patrick Swayze I know the book is from the late 80 or early 90s as surely as if they carried pagers. I imagine a comparison to Benedict Cumberbatch will feel the same in a few years time. (Not to suggest his popularity won’t last!)

I have no idea if this qualifies as an unpopular opinion or not. And I’m certainly not making any broad-sweeping dictates to authors. But if one reader’s opinion matters, this is mine. Please describe your characters using words, not Hollywood comparisons.


*I screenshot this tweet and obscured the name because, if the poster really is 14, she doesn’t need more drama in her inbox. I left Sadie’s name since she’s an adult.

**For the sake of simplicity I’m going to say actors and use male examples. But this obviously isn’t a single gender issue. (Though I have definitely noticed it more with authors, especially romance authors, doing this for their hero more often than the heroine.)

Note: All the images in the banner came from Imbd.

please keep digital box set covers this

Please put flat covers on digital box sets, a reader’s request.

Yesterday, I fell and twisted my ankle…or twisted my ankle and fell. So, I spent most of the day laid up on the couch with an ice pack, listening to an audio book (Aurora’s End) and tending my Calibre library, which is where I keep track of my non-Kindle books. (I really wish Amazon hadn’t changed file formats to prohibit being uploaded to Calbre. That way I could have them all in one place. But that’s beside the point.) Yesterday, I made sure every book had a listed page length and, if it was part of a series, that series was listed, along with the books place in the series.

look complete we are

This is something I’ve wanted to do for a long time, but didn’t want to dedicate several tedious hours to. In this case, I was stuck on the couch anyhow. So, I was glad for a task that was mindless enough to do while following an audio book. And I feel super accomplished!

I’m likely to spend much of today similarly immobile. This morning I’m looking at covers. And I’ve come to the conclusion that I have definite opinions about such things. I realize, of course, that my opinion is just that. I don’t expect to suddenly get my own way in all things, even this small thing. But, as I have little else to do at the moment (and in case it make any difference to hear a reader’s opinion), I’m going to tell you about it.

I want to talk about the covers of box sets/anthologies/omnibuses/etc. (I’m going to use the term box set to include all of these.) Well, as an aside I also want to take a moment to yell at the top of my lungs ALWAYS PUBLISH A BOOK’S PAGE LENGTH! I don’t care if it’s a digital book. It annoys the ever living FUCK out of me to try and discover if I’m picking up a short story or an epic and only find “File size: 3031 KB.” But that isn’t what today’s post is about. Today is about book cover conventions for box sets.

I find that a lot of authors use 3D rendering of the books in the set instead of a flat cover. I 100% hate this. I don’t actually hate the renderings. I think they’re pretty and make great promo tools. But they are pictures of a box set, not a cover of a box set. (See the difference?) Let me show you why I feel the way I feel. Here’s an image from my Calibre library (ordered by length). I could have done the same in Goodreads, but, as I said, I’m working in Calibre.

3d renderings of box sets don't fit in

You see, everything matches in size and shape. There’s a flow and then, BAM you hit those box sets. They’re the wrong shape, all that white space stands out, and they break up the symmetry. They basically stand out for all the wrong reasons. This annoys me more than is probably reasonable, but enough that I’m taking the time to write a whole post about it.

I actually feel the same way about authors who don’t stick to the size and shape conventions for book covers in general too.

make your cover match industry standard
That book in the middle isn’t an audio book. It’s just a book with the wrong shaped cover and it stands out horrendously. To me, books that don’t conform to the industry convention for cover shape scream ‘poorly done self-publishing.’ I actually hate to say anyone has done something wrong, because part of the joys of self-publishing is the ability to do things differently if you choose. But, for me, allowing readers to maintain ascetic cohesion when they are looking at their digital shelves is important. Again, it’s just my opinion. But it’s one I feel strongly about.

Going back to box sets. I don’t actually care If the cover is one created for the set and just lists the series name (like cover one), has stylized rendering of the books (cover 2), just has all the covers of the books themselves (cover 3), or something else entirely.

examples of box sets
Just so long as the overall image is rectangular and flat, so that it matches other books on my shelves.

And in case you needed one more reason to stick to flat covers, let me mention #Bookstagram. I love Instagram. I post a ton of book pictures. So many, in fact, that between See Sadie Read and Sadie’s Spotlight, I have two accounts full of almost nothing but books. (The latter entirely ebooks.) I recently posted this one.


Nowhere, absolutely nowhere (not on Amazon, the author’s page, or Goodreads) can I find a flat image of this book cover. And while this was an ARC, the book has been published with this as it’s cover. Tell me how much nicer that picture would have looked with a flat image of the cover! It’s got a super pretty cover. I’d have much preferred a real image of it.

So, there you have it folks, my unequivocal opinion on the size and shape of digital box sets. Am I alone in this? Anyone feel differently?